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This is a space where I share thoughts and guidance on healing, identity, and personal growth.

Here, you’ll find reflections on topics like anxiety, trauma recovery, multicultural identity, and nervous system regulation — all through the lens of mindfulness and compassion. Whether you’re navigating stress, exploring your sense of belonging, or simply wanting to feel more grounded, I hope these writings offer support and a sense of connection.

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From Surviving to Thriving: How to heal the scars from an emotionally immature parent

From Surviving to Thriving: How to heal the scars from an emotionally immature parent

“People have two needs: Attachment and authenticity. When authenticity threatens attachment, attachment trumps authenticity.”

Dr. Gabor Mate

The word “narcissist” is having a moment these days. Videos on Tik Tok and Instagram present neat, bulleted, quick-tip points warning of this type of person. Typically it’s a romantic partner who tries to get what they need at anybody’s expense, thus becoming a cautionary tale. I have heard the word thrown around so casually and so frequently and have become very curious about why.

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Self-Injury and Shame: Breaking the Cycle
Tommi West Tommi West

Self-Injury and Shame: Breaking the Cycle

For many of us, self-injury can carry significant shame and guilt: the feelings and the scars don’t go away, at least not for good. The act of self-injury can feel like a comfort, even an old friend, and serves a seemingly logical act designed to release pain or distress, or even anger. But this is a short-term (and potentially dangerous) solution.

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